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I just read a blog entitled What it’s Like To Grow Up In A Country That Doesn’t Hate Sex.

 It is about how families in Denmark are more accepting of teen promiscuity than American families.

The point of the article is that the Danish have a healthier view of sex and therefore lead happier lives because of this.

I would argue that when you really love something you don’t throw it around like a cheap shoe.  When you love something you protect it, guard it, you cherish it, and value it.

The so called “puritanical “values of the majority of Americans consider adolescent sex to be taboo.  Unlike their European counterparts they do not look favorably on their teenage daughter bringing home her boyfriend to spend the night. The blogger of this article sees this as a bad thing.  But is it?

Is there anything hateful about wanting our children to participate in an adult activity when they are an adult and both emotionally and financially capable of bearing the consequences of that behavior.  I am reminded of the parents who tell their children,”If you want to drink or smoke pot I will allow you to in my home.”  Encouraging risky behavior is not good parenting.

I realize that we no longer live in a society where chastity is a highly guarded virtue. Statistically 70 percent of young adults have had sex by age 20.  The U.S. has a higher rate of teen pregnancies but the way teen pregnancies are treated and the way they are recorded in Europe makes that suspect . The same article details how abstinence education helped reduce teen pregnancies in the U. S. The MTV show 16 and Pregnant has also had an impact in the reduction of teen pregnancies.

 Statistically, teens in the U.S. and Europe are equally sexually active. Apparently parental approval is not a determining factor in teen sexual behavior.

The assertion that a country that is more accepting of sexual promiscuity among teens is a happier place to live may not be accurate. From Wikipedia:


Denmark is often known as the country with the happiest people, but according to the WHO, both the female and male suicide rates are significantly higher than that of the US. Out of 80 countries polled and investigated in, the female suicide rate for Denmark is 11.3 suicides per 100,000 women (ranked 13th). The male suicide rate is twice as high at 24.1 suicides per 100,000 men (ranked 23rd).

The US, however, are ranked much lower on the list of 80. The female rate of suicide in the US is 4.4 suicides per 100,000 women (ranked 40th). And the male rate of suicide is 19.8 suicides per 100,000 men (ranked 30th).

Maybe hating sex makes for a happier society after all.