Archives for the month of: June, 2015


Today was a day of mourning.  In South Carolina there was a funeral for Senator Pinckney who was killed by a deranged 21 year old racist. It was also the demise of celebrating the Pre Civil War South with its heinous culture of slavery as the Confederate Flag is all but obliterated from American culture.

And today traditional marriage between a man and a woman has been laid to rest in favor of a redefinition of marriage by the U. S. Supreme Court.  While no one is celebrating the loss of Mr. Pinckney, the other two deaths are being lauded and hailed as a huge progress in the evolution of American society.

Why am I sad?  Why am I not brought to tears by the Gay Men’s Chorus singing the National Anthem on the steps of the Supreme Court?  Why am I unmoved by the rainbows covering social media-and coloring the site I post my blog on?

While gay marriage is being celebrated-who is celebrating heterosexual marriage?  Even among heterosexuals marriage is losing its appeal in favor of cohabitating without any formal commitment.

My life is not a bastion to marriage.  I am one of the survivors of the record level divorce rates of the 80’s and never found anyone who could convince me to try again.  Not that I have lived a wantonly wild, sexually liberated life since then.  I have mostly been content with a solitary life of celibacy.

But I have never given up on the hope of marriage. The hope of a soul mate who truly celebrates and cherishes my soul- a companion to do life with. It is a dream to aspire to in my journey of relationships.  It is the dream-for me-of traditional marriage between a man and a woman.  Marriage as it was ordained by the Judeo-Christian God of the Bible-a Holy rite.  The transformation of fornication under carnal knowledge to sanctified, holy-dare I say blessed sex.

Today’s American culture calls my dream a fairy tale-a fantasy-a hoax.

But they would say the same about my faith in Christ too.

So today among the rainbows and #lovewins-don’t hate me for mourning.


Serenity Prayer

A while ago I wrote a blog about Entitlement and The Christian right. I blasted Christians in America for expecting to have the same treatment that they once had when they were the majority.  As Our American society becomes more secular and less “Christian” the privileges of the religious right have dwindled.  I reminded Christians that the Bible offers many spiritual blessing for living a life of faith but it also promises certain persecution and suffering as well.  I am reminded of the extended Serenity Prayer that says:

“So that I may be reasonably happy in this life

And supremely happy with Him

Forever and ever in the next.


Today I realized that I am not immune from this sense of entitlement.

I have had my share of trials and tribulations in my life.  The majority of them albeit when I was rebelling in some way against God and the teachings of the Bible.  When I have chosen obedience and a life surrendered and guided by the Lord, I have experienced far more blessings than problems.

But when troubles come, and none can go through life without a few, my initial reaction is indignation.  As though, as a child of the King none should touch me. It is understandable that I should feel this way.  After all the Bible does say;

1 Peter 2:9New Living Translation (NLT)

9 But you are not like that, for you are a chosen people. You are royal priests, a holy nation, God’s very own possession. As a result, you can show others the goodness of God, for he called you out of the darkness into his wonderful light.

But just like the line in the Serenity prayer these promises and rewards will not be fully realized in this life, and I keep forgetting.

I must remember that the Priest I serve set the example of how to handle troubles with grace

Philippians 2:6-10New Living Translation (NLT)


Though he was God,

he did not think of equality with God

as something to cling to.


Instead, he gave up his divine privileges;

he took the humble position of a slave

and was born as a human being.

When he appeared in human form,


he humbled himself in obedience to God

and died a criminal’s death on a cross.

He also reminds me:

John 16:33 (NLT)

33 I have told you all this so that you may have peace in me. Here on earth you will have many trials and sorrows. But take heart, because I have overcome the world.”

God grant me……